Glittering Mousetraps and Other Ways We Lie to Ourselves

I know a person named Bradley—not his real name, of course; privacy is a charming little costume we all wear. He told me something a while back, and it’s been living rent-free in my head, like a squatter who critiques the decor.

So, Bradley and his buddies hit the casino a few months ago. You know, that glittering palace where hope gets mugged and your wallet empties itself willingly. “Just for fun,” he said, straight-faced like someone promising “The diet starts Monday.” That first batch of “fun” cost him a swift $500, vanished faster than a politician’s promise. A few days later, still missing the lesson’s receipt, he returned. Another thousand dollars gone. Like a faucet drip, money kept leaking until he’d lost $6000. Poof—fed into the hungry, blinking beast.

To his credit (or maybe just desperation), Bradley marched back into that casino and voluntarily put himself on the “no-fly list.” It’s like telling the fox, “Please guard the henhouse, especially from me.” A neat system designed to install brakes on runaway trains like his.

Will he stay away? I truly hope so. But hope is tricky, like believing your houseplants are plotting world peace. Addiction isn’t a cartoon villain with horns; it’s that charming friend convincing you that juggling chainsaws is the perfect party trick. It sweet-talks you gently, especially when you’re tired, bored, lonely, or worst—hopeful. Oh, addiction loves to snack on hope. It’s a black-belt master at disguising terrible ideas as genius ones: “Just one more try. What could possibly go wrong?”

Now, Bradley serves coffee at Tim Hortons. Let that sink in—soul-crushing early mornings, the lingering perfume of burnt coffee and stale sugar sticking to him like a cheap suit. Every dollar he lost represents hours of him renting out his smile to people who’ve forgotten “please” and “thank you.” It wasn’t just money; he sacrificed his time, his energy, his very life force on the altar of spinning wheels and blinking lights. That’s more than a sting—it’s a kick in the teeth from reality wearing steel-toed boots.

Funny thing? I’m not even judging him. Strange, right?

It spun my brain into a new direction. Maybe the real difference between Bradley’s choices and mine is he zigged into a casino while I zagged elsewhere. Not because I’m a willpower superhero—my halo’s probably just stuck at the cleaners. Maybe it’s just luck, or the universe rolling the dice differently for me. I’ve never stood before that particular glittering mousetrap, never felt that siren call to test my luck, whispering the sweet, sticky lie we all adore: “Just once. I can totally handle it.”

This got me thinking: imagine if the government declared, “Okay, folks! For the next 24 hours, no rules, no police, no punishment, and afterwards, no one remembers a thing.” Like hitting a cosmic reset button, revealing all our raw, buried truths.

Initially, the internet would explode with jokes—”I’m eating ice cream all day!” or “Finally using the carpool lane alone!” Cute. But beneath that playful layer would surge genuine, terrifying chaos—the real selves we keep locked away.

People would steal—not out of desperation, but to feel that forbidden rush. Ancient grudges, masked by polite smiles, would spill out openly. And those quiet souls who apologize for existing? They’d be center stage. Sweet Aunt Mildred might finally confess to Uncle George that his toupee resembles roadkill she’s hated for thirty years, delivered with honesty so brutal it’d make a drill sergeant blush.

Self-proclaimed spiritual gurus preaching peace and endless light? Their halos would flicker and fade without an audience. Motivational speakers suddenly silent. “Kind souls” reliant on applause would find themselves utterly alone, realizing their kindness was just a costume worn for the crowd. Stripped of their stage, they’d crumble like day-old cookies.

Because here’s the uncomfortable truth: we all drag around some darkness, shadows we can’t shake, seeds of chaos tucked deep inside. Some of us are simply masters at hiding it—even from ourselves—papering over soul-cracks until we swear everything’s perfect.

Which brings me, somewhat uneasily, to the “great people.” You know them—their words smoother than butter but only when there’s an audience. Their kindness, a solar-powered garden light shining brightly only when public attention hits just right. They loudly declare their humility, essentially announcing, “Admire my amazing humbleness!” They’ve never faced life’s true dumpster fires, mistaking fortunate stage-lighting and good PR for genuine greatness.

And let me be crystal clear: I’m no saint. If they’re handing out halos, I’m not even close to the shortlist.

I have my own gremlin, kept mostly on a tight leash. Mostly. Occasionally, it chews the furniture despite my best intentions. Sometimes we negotiate quietly in dark corners of my mind, reminding each other who’s in charge. Other times, it throws tantrums—and that’s okay. It keeps life interesting and brutally honest.

Speaking these uncomfortable truths doesn’t make me brave or special. It simply means I’m less interested in fairy tales about human perfection. Maybe I’m the person pointing at the sparkly elephant in the room everyone else insists is just fancy furniture. But at least I know what’s growling in my basement.

Honestly, I trust people who’ve wrestled demons, earned their scars, and marked their personal maps with “Here Be Dragons.” Those whose maps suspiciously say “Paradise” everywhere make me nervous. Scars, after all, let the truth seep in.

Anyway, that’s my brain doing its usual gymnastics.

Maybe I will write that follow-up piece, “The So-Called ‘Good’ People Who Secretly Make My Skin Crawl.” Sounds like a bestseller—or at least a very pointed pamphlet. Until then, maybe ask yourself this: what dark corners in your basement are you quietly avoiding?


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Kalyanasundaram Kalimuthu

This blog is where I dump my brain. Like a suitcase that’s been zipped too long—thoughts spill out, wrinkled, awkward, and not always useful. No tips. No advice. No “live better” tricks. Just messy, raw thoughts—sometimes funny, sometimes not. Sometimes I don’t even get it. I don’t even want to call this writing. Real writers might take me to court. What I do is more like emotional spitting, random keyboard smashing, and letting my thoughts run wild like unsupervised toddlers in a grocery store—touching everything, breaking nothing important, but still making everyone uncomfortable. I do this because it helps me breathe. It’s like taking the trash out of my brain before the smell becomes permanent. It helps me talk to people without tripping over my own words. Writing clears the traffic jam in my head—horns, chaos, bad directions, all gone for a while. If you’re looking for deep lessons or motivation, you’re in the wrong place. I’m not your guide. I’m just a guy talking to himself in public and hoping someone finds it mildly interesting. This is the mess I call writing. Or not-writing. Whatever. Like a broken vending machine—it may not deliver what you asked for, but sometimes it still drops something weird and oddly perfect.

5 thoughts on “Glittering Mousetraps and Other Ways We Lie to Ourselves

  1. I’m so glad you liked some of my stuff and I followed you. Love this honest writing. It’s like looking in the mirror at a somewhat kindred spirit except that you are more creative and as I said before you are a powerhouse with words for sure. I occasionally go on tirades myself where I point out things beneath the masks everyone wears and just the whole bs facade. I am mostly rewarded with silence because a lot of people don’t want to hear it. Or some occasional likes from readers as cynical as myself. I also really like your art, the theme with the dude sitting in the chair. Wondering if these are your creations and if you are hand drawing or doing AI or something.

    1. Your words reached a place I don’t often leave unlocked. It’s rare to find someone who doesn’t flinch at the quiet truths tucked between the lines. We may write in different voices, but I think we’re both trying to lift the same heavy curtain. And about the art—it’s AI, but that man in the chair… he’s someone I’ve carried in my thoughts for years. Maybe he lives in all of us, in those paused moments when the world forgets we’re still here. Thank you for seeing him—and for seeing me.

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